Wednesday, October 24, 2007

The wheels on the bus go... know the rest.

2nd verse, same as the first.

He is cheerful. He is frustrated. He is endearing ("Did you know that the longer you leave the tea bag in, the darker and stronger the tea gets?"). He is annoying.

He tells me he has solved his anger problem, because Hubby fixed the game...or whatever. Something outside him...always outside. Whatever he does or feels it seems to him perfectly justified. he dumped out all the trash bins in the study. He needed to find the instructions!

I emailed the state worker today and said, "When?"

He emailed me back and said, "Don't know. We are talking about it in a meeting this afternoon."

Yes, everyone agreed on what needed to be done on Monday, but still no plan, no date. "If you have to take him to the ER or call the police don't hesitate." Been there. Done that.

Everyone asks me "when?" I say, "I don't know."

Hubby says, "I'm completely exhausted. It is affecting my job. When?"

"I don't know."

Brian says, "Will you have to call the police again, Mom?"

"I don't know."

"Will that hospital have a bed? Will they take him now that he seems happy he is leaving?"

"I don't know."

"What is going to happen next, Mom?"

I don't know.

We wait. We wait for the wheels to turn.

No one wanted this. No one is happy about this.

Our hearts are breaking.

In slow motion.

The wheels on the bus go round and round, round and round...


  1. This is precisely the reason why we want to be done with foster care. This is why our county is losing foster parents in droves.

    I'm sorry this is happening to you, too.

  2. I'm sorry. I can also relate. This is so hard.

  3. The longest wait in the world. How in the world can anyone possibly see this as being okay for Frankie or your family?

  4. This seems to be a common theme. You have made the decision that he needs to leave, but the workers drag their feet finding a new place (or there is simply not a place that will take the child).

    This is one of the worst parts of fostering. But it makes for good reading. :)

    Take care.


  5. Your ability to document this all in real time is amazing.

    I'm so sorry for all of you. I really hope that a plan is formulated soon.


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