Wednesday, October 24, 2007

He's not stupid

On our way out to the counseling appointment he spoke about how he hoped they had found him a good family and remarked that he had no idea they would find him a new family this quickly. Last time it took months and months.

By the time he got to the counselor he worked it out. This was just too suspicious. He must be going to one of those rat holes. He would rather live on the streets. He did just fine on his own in the streets.

He and his counselor had a pretty good time together. They played with light sabers and were finished a little early. I think the counselor found it emotionally exhausting. Like the rest of us he has to pretend not to know something that he knows. Frankie said he would miss him, and I think he meant it.

We went to Frankie's favorite hamburger joint for dinner. He asked if he could order the monster burger even though he thought he probably couldn't finish it. I said, "What am I going to do, ground you?" He looked at me trying to puzzle that one out and I said, "You can order anything you want."

All the way home he talked about how they couldn't fool him, there was no way they could find a family this fast. They were taking him to one of those rat holes. He doesn't seem that upset though -- more triumphant that he has figured out the plan and is too smart to be fooled. Fortunately he is not so smart that he has guessed that I must know the truth.

Or maybe it is just that he trusts me.

But I think part of him knows that he needs to be in a residential treatment center.

He knows.


  1. Just caught up on your posts which I think were all written today.

    Glad it's calm at the moment. I'll check back with you tomorrow.

  2. I'm sorry this is happening to all of you.

  3. Sending hugs to both you and Frankie.

  4. Yondalla,

    I came to your blog several months ago when I was considering becoming a foster parent (we were told we don't qualify b/c we have 6 kids).

    Anyway, I just want to thank you for your openness (always maintaining confidentiality) re; your family and particularly since Frankie came. I have learned so much from you about parenting (I particularly admire how you LOVE your kids, but manage not to be emotionally invested in the choices they make... I'm not there yet, but we will all be happier when I am!)

    My heart aches for Frankie, and for your family. I'm praying for all of you.

    Much love,

  5. Corey is so right, Yondalla. I agree with everything above.

    Especially the heart aching part.

  6. Yondalla,
    I went away for a week or so and came back to this. It sounds like everyone is looking out for Frankie in a positive way. I'm so sorry that it's hasn't worked out for both you and your family and Frankie. You are doing the right thing. Hang in there!


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