Sunday, October 21, 2007

Total Melt-Down

I don't know what to tell you.

Frankie had trouble with a video game, although it could have been anything. There was much ranting, and breaking of personal possessions.

He would not de-escalate.

I called 911 and the agency.

The officers were really wonderful. They spoke calmly to him, listened to him. The supervisor from the agency called and she spoke to him too.

He is insistent that he be moved.

His reasons for moving are more than a little incoherent. Right now his biggest reason seems to be that the video game doesn't work and there isn't anything else to do. That and all of his things here have got lost, broken or taken (which seems to be the fault of the house or the family somehow).

He was finally given a choice between staying calm and going to the hospital again. He choose being calm.

Brian is now afraid to live with him.

I can't tell you exactly what will happen next. I suspect that he will be moved within the week.

I think part of what happened was that he spent 48 hours on his best behavior and it wore him out, but I don't think that matters now.

When he came here we knew he might not be ready to live in a family.


  1. Yondalla, I'm sorry. I know this wasn't how you wanted things to play out. I hope that they find the right place for Frankie, whether it is your home or somewhere else.

  2. This is so intense.
    Thanks for posting. I myself have absolutely no concept of what i would do in such high stress situations. (Heck, I'm learning a lot about parenting from your blog, too). Not that it is of any help to you for me to tell you this, but following your blog has been meaningful time spent in my day, and I'm learning a bit about being human -- you know, in the ways that people were supposed to when they had other families in churches or villages to look at. me, i never came from a good family, so much that i'm learning about family and coping with life i'm learning from blogs like yours. thanks for all the posting that you're doing, Yondalla.

  3. I'm so sorry! What a night.

    I would be very suspicious of the respite causing some distress. Telling a kid that the rapture is going to happen soon doesn't sound like a boost to the mental stability.

    Looking forward to an update this morning.

  4. Oh no!

    I am sorry. I've been having a feeling something like this might happen for a while.

    I just hope it was his things that he was breaking and not yours.

    I'm so, so, so, sorry.

  5. Yondalla,
    I'm so sorry this happened - what a crazy crazy day back. Rapture talk, crisis, Frankie moving out ... it's a shame. You & yours are in my thoughts and prayers.

  6. I'm so sorry Yondalla. How intense, overwhelming and difficult.

  7. Delurking just to send you virtual hugs. This must be so incredibly difficult! {{{Hugs}}}


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