Sunday, May 21, 2006

The inner conversation

Codependent me:

Oh dear...Evan starts summer school in two weeks. Let's look up the schedule on the web. Hmm...he will be in classes from 8:30-3:30. He also has to work 10 hours a week, see the counselor, go to group, and 2 12-step meetings a week. Oh..and there is that on-line class he has to take at the same time. How will he cope? That is an awful lot...

Recovering me:
NOT MY PROBLEM. Grade papers. Stop thinking about this. could be done, if he just organizes himself. He could work 5 hours on just Saturdays and Sundays. He could see the counselor and go to group on the same evening...that would even work out better for transportation since they are both 25 miles away. He could go to 12-Step meetings to other evenings. He could have Friday evening off altogether. The on-line class is easy. He should be able to fit that in around everything else. I could write him up a calendar and sit down with him and make a schedule.

Let him figure it out himself. If you have to, you can call the social worker and ask her to offer to work out a schedule with him. NOT YOUR JOB.

Maybe it would be better if he did not work during summer school. I mean, I know he will only qualify for that post-high school education/training money if he demonstrates that he can work and go to school at the same time, but it would be better to finish school and stay clean than to start using again...maybe the counselor would let him cut back on the 12-step meetings. Or he could drop the on-line class...


Sigh....nobody said recovery was easy.

1 comment:

  1. Too bad we don't live closer - I think we could be good buds!



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