Telling Evan's family

I've written about Evan's mom before. This morning I was reading what Lionmom has to say about the bio moms of her daughers -- very compassionate and thoughtful.

It made me think about Evan's bio family. I am in something of a bind.

First, I am not supposed to tell his family that he is in rehab. It is not that they are not allowed to know, it is that he is supposed to tell them (one of the "steps") and if I tell them I am "enabling" them.

If his grandmother or aunt call I don't think that I can not tell them. The genuinely love him. If I am evasive they will worry. I did give Evan envelopes already addressed and stamped to them so that it would be as easy as possible for him to write to them when he is ready. Hopefully he will get to them before they call me.

Oh...but his mother. He will not want to talk to his mother. He accepts her calls, but has never made an attempt to communicate with her.

We were out last night and there was a message from the prison on the answering machine. The same recorded message I have heard so often.

"If you wish to accept this call and the charges, press 1. If you wish to have more information about how much this call with cost, press 3. If you wish to refuse this call, press 5. If you do not want to receive any more calls from this institution again, press 7."

Press 7....Press 7...Press 7....

I guess it was a good thing that I was not home last night.

I think I will call the social worker and ask her to tell Evan's mother something...anything...I don't want to talk to her.