Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Quilt Therapy

In order to do a log cabin it appears I would need 12 different fabrics ranging from .5 to 1 yard. Instead I have about 3o+ fat quarters (most have already had a few pieces cut out of them) and and larger pieces left over from various projects that look just hideous together.

So I can't make a log cabin quilt unless I buy a good bit of new fabric.

I found a way to get some use out of all my tiny scraps. All I have to do is by a few yards of solid black to make this pieced star quilt. Maybe I will post a photo of it when I get it done. No promises about when that will be though.

So what is going on, of course, is that I have accepted that Evan is leaving in six weeks or so. Something could still happen to prevent it, like being denied a passport or visa or stumbling across an idea that is even crazier, but excepting the unexpected, he will go.

And not to school 25 miles away. He will go very far away.

When he leaves he will take the quilt I made for him with him, and his room and the bed will be empty. So I will make a new quilt and pretend that I am excited about how it will look in the room. I will pretend that it will fill the hole that he will leave behind.


  1. I'm wondering why you don't see each child all the way through to real adulthood? Is it that you can't afford to support them w/o Casey, or are there other reasons? This is not criticism, only inquiry.

  2. how ironic to read this post. the Hubby and I are watching a PBS show on the Gee's Bend Quilts which are here in San Francisco. They are amazing. Have you ever done free form quilting?


  3. OK, I've only been a reader for a couple of months, but although independentsw's comment is not meant as "criticism," I find it annoying and unrealistic.

    Part of seeing children through to actual adulthood is allowing them to try out their wings, and being prepared to help them when they fail. It's being a loving parent in spite of the actions they choose to do, even when those actions go against your own judgment and morals and common sense.

    When our children are legally adults, even if they are not mentally or emotionally adults, we cannot KEEP them from doing what they choose to do.

    Some of them may be like my 18yo who doesn't want to do anything especially bad - but just won't do anything. My way of supporting him into adulthood may very well be to kick him out come summer, as I suspect that will be the only way to convince him to grow up and take responsibility.

    Financial support is NOT the only factor, and not even the most important factor, in parenting.

  4. Kathleen, thanks for the defense.

    Independentsw, I did not take offense at all. I've been thinking about this problem a lot. I wrote a long rambling post about it, but here is the short answer. In some ways we support the kids long past their 18th birthday. In some ways we expect the agency to do it. That seems not to be working as well as I expected it to, and I am not certain what to do about it.


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