Thursday, March 13, 2008

One Mother Among Others

A couple of days ago I wrote a post in which I said that if you ask me how many kids I have I give different answers. One answer, "Four or five, depending up whether you count my nephew...," is officially off the list. Henceforth the answer is some contexts is necessarily "two" but in all others it is "five."

Just to be clear, this has nothing to do with Evan's real, natural, legal, biological mother who diapered him, fed him, and raised him for most of his childhood. She could not always take care of him, but she is a good mother and I am in not in the least interested in replacing her.

It's not a competition, or if it was, I would lose, and that is okay.

Still, I am ditching the distinction between him and the other boys. In my world I shall no longer refer to and think of Andrew, Brian, Carl, and David as "sons" and Evan as "nephew." Nope. They all are getting stuck into one pidgeon hole.

Why, do you ask?

I suppose I could talk about our relationship, what expectations we had, or didn't when he moved in and how things have grown, about how close I feel to him. I could, but that would not get to the point. Something happened today.

Roland and I went somewhere to do something for him and I was greeted with these words, "Hi! Evan said his parents were coming. That's you right?"

And I said, "Yes. That's us."

And I don't lie.


  1. Five it is. Five wonderful boys who are all stronger and more complete because of you.

  2. Sometimes it's the little things that make the biggest difference. Congratulations!

  3. Congratulations on your bouncing baby(?) boy!

  4. Wow and who knew you were expecting this weekend! LOL

    I always try to explain to people that to be a parent to someone doesn't always mean replacing that parent. I feel a post!

    Congrats on your very big boy, actually all of them!

  5. That is so incredibly sweet. I'm guessing everything said after that went right over your head!


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