Friday, March 21, 2008


In some ways parenting foster kids is easier than parenting biokids.

Oh, mostly it is more difficult. Kids who are or have been in foster care have suffered trauma and they present challenges. They can wear you out emotionally. Most of them are professionals at finding your emotional weaknesses and exploiting them.

It is difficult, exhausting, and frustrating.

But sometimes, when you are parenting children whom you have given birth to and raised from that birth, you miss the foster kids.

See...with foster kids I never felt any guilt for the existence of their problems.

I'm just saying.


  1. How very, very true.

  2. Even though your bio kids' problems are not your fault, it's sometimes easy to blame yourself, anyway.

    At least with foster kids, you know in your heart that they have problems stemming from things over which you had no control at all.

    Hang in there...

  3. You sound pretty exhausted.


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