The state worker told me that after the agency worker and he had both written to Gary's parents, I could write them letters too.
I have no idea what to say or even if it is appropriate to say anything.
I think it would be inappropriate to say anything that might sound like I was trying to encourage them to relinquish their parental rights, and just about everything I can think of seems to fit that.
So maybe it just isn't appropriate for me to write to them. I feel comfortable with the idea of answering any questions they might have for me, but I just can't think of anything that I might say that wouldn't amount to "reasons why you should give up your kid and let us adopt him." Everything I can think of just makes me feel icky.
But I thought I would throw it out there. Is there something that it would be appropriate for me to say -- with out them having asked me a thing?