tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post8786591762874647957..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: Do you read the foster adopt blogs? (updated, sadly)Yondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-83152971874907404992007-08-28T20:32:00.000-06:002007-08-28T20:32:00.000-06:00(Waving hand frantically) And us, we'd probably ne...(Waving hand frantically) <BR/>And us, we'd probably never be able to be foster parents again, even if we wanted to. Because one of our CPS investigations (in the aftermath of a violent incident in which we had to defend ourselves from Toots) resulted in an "indicated" report. And yes, we have engaged an attorney and are challenging the state Office of Children and Family Services over it. <BR/><BR/>All because we wanted children in our lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-65696817563384093732007-08-28T09:02:00.000-06:002007-08-28T09:02:00.000-06:00Nicki - I know it seems like all this is happening...Nicki - I know it seems like all this is happening "all at once" but it isn't. FosterEema and FosterAbba, Baggage, and Cindy have been going through these things for months and months, at the very least. Over just a year of reading fost-adopt blogs, I can recall three other investigations that f-parents went through hich did not have the happy endings that Gina and Cindy did. Lionmom and I live in a state that's gone totally batshit crazy. <BR/><BR/>My post was originally a comment on Baggage's blog -- I could have written a similar post nine, six, or three months ago, but it is hard to admit how much you worry, how tenuous my family feels.Maerlowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12045052250287649750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-67181093621855163712007-08-28T08:18:00.000-06:002007-08-28T08:18:00.000-06:00I don't blog publicly about my foster kids, but my...I don't blog publicly about my foster kids, but my husband and I have not had a positive experience. We plan on doing respite only once the current sibling group has moved back in with their mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-4885342447387583142007-08-27T17:42:00.000-06:002007-08-27T17:42:00.000-06:00I read every single post you linked to. By the tim...I read every single post you linked to. By the time I was done, I was angry and sick to my stomach. How can they treat people like that? People who are willing to something everyday that almost no one else is willing to? The unfairness galls me to my core.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530972001172936718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-75379081608915904002007-08-27T15:43:00.000-06:002007-08-27T15:43:00.000-06:00It is so strange that all these things are happeni...It is so strange that all these things are happening at once. I mean, these blogs are just random foster parents who happen to blog, so these things must be happening to foster parents all over the country!<BR/>But don't worry... I myself am planning to be a foster parent as soon as I actually have a steady place to live. Reading all these posts has made me cautious, but I still want to do it. Maybe I too will get fed up with it and quit after a few years, but at least I will have tried it, just like you guys did! All of you foster parents who blog, you are my "virtual mentors!" :)Angel The Alienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16158672957404194956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-60191875098205201422007-08-26T22:08:00.000-06:002007-08-26T22:08:00.000-06:00God, what a roundup of misery.I think the last thi...God, what a roundup of misery.<BR/><BR/>I think the last thing I wrote about our status as future foster parents was that we'll keep our lisence for the "if, not when" Huckle's mom has another child, so that there's at least the possibility that we could take him or her. But other than that? I think I'd rather be pregnant (which is saying a lot).Maerlowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12045052250287649750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-91638630263018564832007-08-26T14:06:00.000-06:002007-08-26T14:06:00.000-06:00I'm very close to leaving..at this point I'm proba...I'm very close to leaving..at this point I'm probably going to stick with the kids I have until they reach permanenancy and then get out. No new kids for me.<BR/><BR/>I struggle with being honest on my blog because I want people to be foster parents. I think it is obvious by reading our blogs and reading your blog that the difference is a caring agency. Your agency makes sure you are paid, makes sure your kids have everything they need, takes the time to make thoughtful, appropriate placements and so on and so on.<BR/><BR/>Our agencies seem to be quite the opposite huh? Our problems are not with the kids, or the struggles that come from the kids. Our problem is the way we are treated by the agencies.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for this post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-47869088195152383952007-08-26T14:02:00.000-06:002007-08-26T14:02:00.000-06:00But the post that you did write is supportive in i...But the post that you <I>did</I> write is supportive in its own way.<BR/><BR/>Thank you.FosterAbbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431773317761777407noreply@blogger.com