tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post7900091207734309383..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: The rest of the storyYondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-68624628205573995012006-12-24T09:23:00.000-07:002006-12-24T09:23:00.000-07:00In one of the training sessions I attended they ta...In one of the training sessions I attended they talked about bad vs. good and familiar vs. unfamiliar. They said that as adults we look at bad vs. good (though things are rarely that black and white). For example, home with a birth parent that involved neglect, drug addiction, abuse, and lots of chaos = bad. Foster/adoptive home with security and calm and love = good. <br /><br />But for the kids it's not like that. Bad or not-so-bad the home they came from is what is familiar. Even if it was abusive or chaotic it was familiar and therefore comforting. The unfamiliar, however good it may be, it stressful and unsettling. <br /><br />I've never been a person who expects my child to run into my arms and to be thrilled about being adopted. That's a movie-notion, not a reality. But I had never thought of it in terms of familiar vs. unfamiliar. That will an important thing for me to remember.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06956114780055557451noreply@blogger.com