tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post6166884294065670977..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: Frankie's ResponseYondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-69571602465741550772007-10-17T11:52:00.000-06:002007-10-17T11:52:00.000-06:00I vote for number 2.I vote for number 2.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530972001172936718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-17006413343370288732007-10-16T23:07:00.000-06:002007-10-16T23:07:00.000-06:00I agree with FosterAbba's #4 and granny (since we ...I agree with FosterAbba's #4 and granny (since we seem to be taking a poll). I don't think her #4 is necessarily pessimistic, though. I don't know Frankie's history, but it sounds like a multitude of foster kids we've known. He may eventually learn to empathize with others, make attachments (to cats, as well as people), and to feel and express sympathy, but those things take time - even years, sometimes. And living in a world where only his needs matter is a survival skill many kids develop. With a family who is commited to him, he should be able to make progress in all these areas. He's blessed to have you. <BR/> I'm sorry about your loss.Other Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497334953872151453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-4942330293723021532007-10-16T21:40:00.000-06:002007-10-16T21:40:00.000-06:00I'm leaning toward what Foster Abba said or some v...I'm leaning toward what Foster Abba said or some variation.<BR/><BR/>He either can't feel that kind of sadness or he does and doesn't know what to do about it so he buries it and changes the subject.<BR/><BR/>But he donated his t-shirt. That must mean something.Grannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17283823157675990935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-85456464756350588002007-10-16T18:40:00.000-06:002007-10-16T18:40:00.000-06:004. Aspbergers or something on the spectrum.5. Is e...4. Aspbergers or something on the spectrum.<BR/>5. Is emotionally stunted and has to learn to give OTHER PEOPLE emotional space. <BR/>6. I dunnoAidelMaidelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788500419305677402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-60634226416726745872007-10-16T18:32:00.000-06:002007-10-16T18:32:00.000-06:00I agree with number 2. And I don't think it's that...I agree with number 2. And I don't think it's that different from number 4. <BR/><BR/>Although, I know very few people who are comfortable and able to cope well around sad people. Look at our culture and how we avoid death, and sometimes people who are grieving.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09235941490505824539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-75039091125689631942007-10-16T17:31:00.000-06:002007-10-16T17:31:00.000-06:00I agree with #4, sadly. Isn't that part of RAD? ...I agree with #4, sadly. Isn't that part of RAD? And Asperger's?<BR/><BR/>It just seems like this is typical Frankie, unconcerned about the world, except for the parts that directly affect his current obsession.Stacie Guesswork (aka Mrs Butter B)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17009516649727981277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-63855607315631756642007-10-16T16:58:00.000-06:002007-10-16T16:58:00.000-06:00What about the following alternative explanation?4...What about the following alternative explanation?<BR/><BR/>4) Frankie doesn't feel particularly sad about the cat and isn't able to express (or perhaps doesn't have) sympathy for other people. He lives in a world where only his needs really matter.<BR/><BR/>I know that's a pretty pessimistic viewpoint, but I'm feeling that way after a pretty crummy exchange with our social worker today.FosterAbbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431773317761777407noreply@blogger.com