tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post5447494357093308757..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: Yondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-6586242638060924092009-02-22T20:27:00.000-07:002009-02-22T20:27:00.000-07:00Thanks for the response - very interesting. I had...Thanks for the response - very interesting. I hadn't really thought about it in terms of fairness, in part because I don't have any bio kids. It certainly makes sense, though. My parents, as much as they were all about doing well in school, were very careful to discourage competition between my sister and I, so at least I'll have that to build on.<BR/><BR/>I guess my concerns are more about whether a kid would feel like a failure, or even just feel like they don't fit in, in a family that is college-focused if that's not where they are headed. I wonder if in part your boys coming as teens played a role in that - by the time they got to you some of those expectations had already been set and they weren't really trying to 'fit in' in that sense. Seems that could be more of an issue with younger kids.<BR/><BR/>Obviously that question had more to do with me than with you. Thanks for making me think, and for letting me ramble :)sarsmilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00723926033866806632noreply@blogger.com