tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post5326037586022931406..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: Still "honeymooning"?Yondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-72397776818985834502008-07-17T07:30:00.000-06:002008-07-17T07:30:00.000-06:00I guess I hadn't ever thought of how the poor kid ...I guess I hadn't ever thought of how the poor kid feels about it. Although, we had a RAD kid and we NEVER got a honeymoon with her. I do think though, the "honeymoon" period serves another purpose. I like to take the time to really take stock of why I like this kid, what they do that is charming or cute. I then pull those times out when they are being horrid, to remember there are some things I really, really like about them.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530972001172936718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-87530212667355940202008-07-16T18:14:00.000-06:002008-07-16T18:14:00.000-06:00I agree. I've mostly fostered quite young childre...I agree. I've mostly fostered quite young children, even babies, so with them there is not that "honeymoon" period anyway, just a 'getting to know you' time, particularly when they are preverbal, and still a sense of treading carefully, as you work out what bothers them, comforts them, triggers rage or sadness, and working really hard to get those bonds of attachment happening as quickly as possible. But the few times I have had older children come into my care for a while, I found it very unsettling, as we tiptoe around each other, working each other out. There's an art to the whole process; it sounds like you have it. Think I'll just stick with the littlies. Cuddling on the rocking chair and pummelling playdoh together are easy foolproof methods for me - don't think they'd work with a teenager!Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11947647228190199276noreply@blogger.com