tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post4163915869844294493..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: Foster Care Isn't Open AdoptionYondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-57764943685960059512008-08-14T10:42:00.000-06:002008-08-14T10:42:00.000-06:00I agree- it is hard- for everyone involved- we are...I agree- it is hard- for everyone involved- we are the only ones who actually chose to be in this position- and we are looked upon as the "bad guy" by the first parents- but it is not about us. It is about the situation-Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08367614478917963052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-13843867708791415562008-08-14T05:41:00.000-06:002008-08-14T05:41:00.000-06:00You are so good at this. I'm sorry it's so hard bu...You are so good at this. I'm sorry it's so hard but you are so good at this.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164833674841541784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-37008949092277155722008-08-13T22:05:00.000-06:002008-08-13T22:05:00.000-06:00Your last sentence is exactly what I've learned. I...Your last sentence is exactly what I've learned. I made the decisions, not them, and therefore they won't be exactly right. I had to stop letting it bother me. It is a hard hard road.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08148521081553501182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-64932223983532804982008-08-13T15:31:00.000-06:002008-08-13T15:31:00.000-06:00Wow, this is really thought-provoking. I'm just go...Wow, this is really thought-provoking. I'm just going through training now, but I was really impressed that our state's training has been created in collaboration with one of the Casey Foundations' programs about creating a collaborative team effort in which parents/foster parents/social workers/teachers/other parties with a stake work together on behalf of the child, but that parents and foster parents have the closest and most aligned bond there.<BR/><BR/>Because I'm doing this as preadoptive training and any children in our house will already have gone through TPR, I've only thought about this in terms of open adoption and not about how an open-ended rather than temporary foster situation might work. You're certainly in a tough situation, but you articulate the strands of it well.<BR/><BR/>ThornAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com