tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post416282221459360727..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: Extended AdolescenceYondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-1738765663943045702008-01-23T10:22:00.000-07:002008-01-23T10:22:00.000-07:00In my 30's and I still call my Mother for support....In my 30's and I still call my Mother for support. I think one of the hardest things in my life has been when I've found my self in the position of parenting my parnts.Bacchushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01621660309420845112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-28624202347729438822008-01-22T14:36:00.000-07:002008-01-22T14:36:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for posting this - it makes me f...Thank you so much for posting this - it makes me feel so much better - My daughter is 20 yrs old and is still very much a child - she has had major life blows that have set her back - and she is still very dependant on me. My husband seems to think that she should be out of the house by now (ha-ha-ha) - but I know she's just not ready. Besides - she's much easier to get along with now that she's not a "teenager" any longer. I think it's hard to understand - I was married at 18 and never looked back - (my husband was 21 - and had been independent since he was 17) - but I was running from home (and truth be told - so was he) - I never wanted that for my kids.<BR/>BeckyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-80672319283389335652008-01-22T13:30:00.000-07:002008-01-22T13:30:00.000-07:00I'm not so sure about the vacation and moral suppo...I'm not so sure about the vacation and moral support ones. Otherwise, most people even older than mid 20s would have to say no. At least, when I go on vacation, it's to my parents and inlaws (since I never see them otherwise). And for moral support, I talk with my parents once a week (my DH called his father almost daily until he died and his Mom about once a week).<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, I could answer yes to the other question through until I got married at 28, but I don't think I was still in adolescence. I just didn't have a home or close friends to rely on. I had a job, went to school, paid my own bills, etc.<BR/><BR/>I had friends whose Mom died when they were teens and father was alcoholic. Even before he died when they were juniors, he wasn't there for them. They were on their own once they graduated high school. They certainly had a different life in college than I did. :( Or my boyfriend who was completely estranged from his family after high school.....AnnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05505967972774910106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-33826753758947532062008-01-22T10:22:00.000-07:002008-01-22T10:22:00.000-07:00I remember, about a month before I went into care,...I remember, about a month before I went into care, there was a guy in my senior class who moved out of his mother/parent's home.<BR/><BR/>He took a small apartment, got a job stocking shelves at the grocery store at night, and went to high school during the day.<BR/><BR/>The entire class was kind of shocked. We were white, suburban to rural, and all middle to upper class kids. Yes there were the burnouts and the white trash kids, but for the most part, this didn't happen. Even the poorest kids lived at home.<BR/><BR/>I remember how hard it was for him, that the teachers were merciful when he often fell asleep in class. He was determined to finish his degree without dropping out. <BR/><BR/>I went into a family and then a group home. I had people to help me to the rapid transition to adulthood. I have no clue what his situation was that he had to move out, but I can only imagine what a 17 year old has to go through to be completely and totally on his own.<BR/><BR/>You need adult guidance even when you're old...AidelMaidelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788500419305677402noreply@blogger.com