tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post4051582621740289520..comments2023-09-23T02:16:11.746-06:00Comments on Thoughts from a Foster Family: Anticipating RejectionYondallahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-7758366907233063482007-03-11T01:34:00.000-07:002007-03-11T01:34:00.000-07:00As a gay man this is my everyday experience when m...As a gay man this is my everyday experience when meeting new people. Even here in SF I always wonder how it will be welcomed. <BR/><BR/>Now our coming out is a whole different experience when we meet people. We aren't just gay men any more, we are also parents. One of the reasons we stay here is because our son will know other children of LGBT families and we have a better chance of finding supportive teachers, etc.<BR/><BR/>It is a tough choice on how to balance letting your children lead their own lives and wanting to protect them from being hurt by the ignorance of others.Bacchushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01621660309420845112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-58954896697251302182007-03-09T10:10:00.000-07:002007-03-09T10:10:00.000-07:00I too would just pass by anyone who started talkin...I too would just pass by anyone who started talking about how they are Christian prior to actually getting to know them. I want friends who will understand and support me, not try to convert me or condemn me. And unfortunately, while it's a generalization, most of the people who start conversations that way are trying to convert or condemn.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497284693223622245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-82884976024164957892007-03-08T21:51:00.000-07:002007-03-08T21:51:00.000-07:00I am queer. I am Jewish. I have little tolerance...I am queer. I am Jewish. I have little tolerance for people who come at me talking about <I>Jee-jus</I> as the first thing out of their mouths. When they invite me to their church, I always tell them that me and my <I>wife</I> are Jewish.<BR/><BR/>Most of the time, they are too fish-mouthed to say much more except scurry away. The only ones who are really persistent are the door-knockers, and I can usually chase them away with a copy of my Hebrew bible. I read a couple of sentences of the Hebrew and ask them what it means. They'll usually pale, gulp and run off.<BR/><BR/>But I definitely feel the same way. If someone has to tell me, before we've even <I>started</I> to be friends, that they are Christian, I usually pass them by.FosterAbbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11431773317761777407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21112957.post-82343007941405299502007-03-08T20:11:00.000-07:002007-03-08T20:11:00.000-07:00I cannot even count how many times I have felt lik...I cannot even count how many times I have felt like this in my life--probably every time I am meeting new people I don't know ahead of time are gay. And I live in a liberal state, where educated informed people are expected not to be homophobic. I can only imagine how much worse it would be if I were meeting "Christians" on a daily basis. <BR/><BR/>The problem is, I think the only way we can ever change people is to have it become personal for them, too. And this happens only when they get a chance to know one of us, and like us, BEFORE we come out to them. Then it becomes dissonant for them, and cause them to consider change.processhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11896815941859100568noreply@blogger.com